Law of Attraction and Anxiety

Law of Attraction is a cool thing and it is in vogue these days. The concept is beautiful. You envision something. Start to believe in what we saw in our mind’s eye, feel good, be thankful and boom we are on the way to manifesting into our real world aka life.

The twist comes when after doing all this, there does not seem to be anything happening. And we are in the constant emotional roller-coaster – it must be something I did not do right, I should try harder, I should have done it this way, maybe I wasn’t grateful enough… Oh! with all this on my mind, how am I supposed to feel good and be thankful/grateful? This goes on and I am well on the way to developing anxiety.

Many years back, when I started implementing positive attitude, heal myself, build my self-esteem etc etc. I did succeed in changing my thought-pattern to believing that positive things can happen in my life, I can be what I want to be. I even manifested some good stuff into my life. I even lost some weight 🙂 But when things did not go the way I expected, I was immediately depressed, searching for the flaws in my thinking. I developed back pain and a bit of numbness in one of my legs. I stopped losing weight. Sometimes, added on a bit of weight that I had lost.

During this period I met a Male gynecologist.(He was hired by the Weight Loss Center whose help I was taking to lose weight. When I stopped losing weight, they made me consult this Doctor to understand the root-cause). He pointed to me that by trying to control each and every aspect of my life, I am building anxiety into my system and that is not going to help. The point hit me hard. And I realized though I have to think positive, believe in making a grand life happen, I have to relax and wait till the time when the manifestation really happens. Shortly after, I took a nice short vacation to Kerala(the god’s own country – it is called), allowed life to flow, instead of controlling it. And lo! my back pain was gone. After so many years now, I have not got it back. When I do feel a bit of pain, I understand I am anxious or tense, I need to relax. At least, it works for me.

In my experience, I have seen that not all of the stuff I dream up come true at that point, but, something better happens much later. When I look back, I appreciate both the things that happened and that did not happen. And I am grateful about every lesson I have learned.

That is what finally matters. What do you say?

If you wish you could be elsewhere, you are nowhere

We humans are so typical. What we have, where we are and how we are is never good, not enough.

Yearning to learn. Curious to know. Willing to change. All these qualities are very good and desirable.  The problem is when this borders on frustration. There is a thin line between wanting something intensely and getting frustrated that we don’t have it yet.

Things beyond our control sap our energy, make us lose focus. Let us do what we have to and then leave everything to the Bigger force. Rejoice in the now, in the current and look forward to bettering ourselves continuously. There is no point wasting our energy thinking about being elsewhere, doing something else. Being myself, doing what I do best, making the best of where I am is the key to content and peace. Let us not confuse it as being complacent. The content and peace drive us towards being our best.