Creating the first impression


What do we do when we look at a person especially someone different? We judge. We judge based on our past experiences/information. How long do we take to do it? 60 seconds. Can you believe it? Within 60 seconds of meeting a person, we pass judgements atleast internally. This is called 60 second fallacy.

Next time we see/meet someone, let us wait a few minutes concsiously before passing  judgement.

Let us look at how we can use this to our advantage to create the first impression.

What others see in us

They see our clothes, our gestures, our walk – all the aspects that form the visual quotient. We have to think through what we want others to see in us. What impression we want to leave in the first 60 seconds. And then follow it. We have to design what others see, keeping in mind the brand we want to believe and portray. Clothes matching for an occasion and confidence are two key ingredients here.

What others hear?

Again, confidence plays a major role. Confidence in what we believe in is very important. Words that show conviction and passion show the observer that we have thought deeply about our thoughts and we know what we are talking about.

What others feel?

Once we make this first impression, it is important to follow it through. If there is no consistency of thought and manners, there is no trust.

Be Yourself and be constantly aware.

Hit the Pause button on your life

Life seems complicated many a times to many of us. Most of the times, it is because we are confused about what we want and what we are doing. We feel as if we are carrying a burden on our shoulders and living a hard life.

A simple cure which works most of the times is hitting the pause button on our life. If, often, we hit the pause button on our life and inspect what is going on in our life, Life becomes simpler, happier. Another advantage of hitting the pause button and looking at our life as if we are an outsider, gives us new perspectives of our current life. Also gives us back our good old dreams. Gives us new ideas as well sometimes.

I am not suggesting you drop everything in your life and go backpacking(if that is what you want to do, and you have everything arranged to do that, well, go ahead with it. That would be the best few days or months in your life). But, yes, a few minutes everyday without watching TV or browsing internet or chatting with someone or SMSing or shouting at children. I suggest you make this time with yourself, where there are no distractions and you are with yourself and only with yourself. If not possible everyday, do it atleast once in a week. 

You will be amazed at the renewed energy you will find in your life and also the contentment that you are moving towards what you want.

Do you do it often? I would like to know your thoughts.