Access for Excess

Access your inner potential to achieve the excess you want in your life.

We all want a lot more in our life than that we have now like money, happiness, peace, calm, success, relationships… Yes. But what is the action we are taking towards achieving it. Even before that do we even clearly know what we want in our life. Once we know what we want, we need to know what our strengths are. If we know what our strengths are, do we know how to leverage our strengths to achieve what we want. This is when we can figure out what actions we need to take to achieve what we set out to achieve.

So, thinking back, I summarize the three steps required to develop self-awareness. Self-awareness is key in achieving excess in-turn.

1. Have a vision of what you want

2. Know your strengths.

3. Know how to leverage your strengths.

While we work on ourselves, the world starts to work on itself. Isn’t that Law of attraction? Do you still want to be lost in the definition and implementation of Law of Attraction. Or would you simply work on what you want and allow everything else to fall into place?

Book Review – The Steve Jobs way

I picked up this book which has been lying around for quite some time now in my home, over the weekend. All these days what made me not pick this book was fear. Steve Jobs is the name which did this. However, when I started reading this book, I was totally engrossed. If I learned anything from this book, it would first be about perseverance. Other important things being steadfastness, innovation, intuitiveness, Selflessness and the courage. I would like to call Steve now, “The Intuitive Leader” and a powerful visionary.

Many interesting phrases used throughout this book like “Evangelizing Innovation, Pirates!Not the Navy, Holistic Product Development”. The excitement that is projected in the book is infectious.

Though I would have liked a story which builds up gradually. It was interesting in one way that the Author has segmented the book into different sections like “Tapping Talent, Rewarding, Brand Building etc”. The book goes back and forth between happenings in Steve’s life, not in a particular order. Once, I was left wondering if in this scenario, Steve had already met Steve Wozniak. Probably it is due to my lack of familiarity with the characters and their lives outside of this book.

The author, Jay Elliott, explains how Steve, the consumer himself understood the needs of consumer better and worked to satisfy their needs. The ultimate way of Steve unleashing his potential is when he decided to jump into retail – selling Apple’s product. He hired the right guy to do the job. This was one of the many examples of Steve’s excellent recruiting capabilities, as the author projected.

This is not to say Steve never had setbacks. He did have setbacks, including being away from Apple for a considerable amount of time. He was graceful about these as his focus never wavered from what he wanted to get to the consumer. He would make a come back to Apple as a CEO this time, while he was only leading Mac team while he left Apple.

Steve’s courage is another significant item to be discussed, when the author says Steve slashed down the number of products Apple was producing, though they were classic.

Very touching scenario was when Steve walked in to the factory to hand out $100 bills to the factory workers, when Apple first launched Macs. This is only one small part of the rewarding system that Steve setup for his people, the author says. Who would not want to be rewarded 🙂

Welcome Simplicity! Bye Bye Complexity!

The year 2013 is here. One of my friends asked me what my new year resolution is.

My spontaneous reaction was, as in many previous years to start talking about all the things I would want to start doing. But before I could say these words, I realized that nothing has stopped me before from doing these things. I questioned myself, then, why couldn’t I do these things in 2012. Was anything wrong with 2012? NO was the answer. As a working mother of three small kids, I know I have my constraints and challenges. All of a sudden, because 2013 is here, my constraints and challenges are not going to go away. Why should I add the burden of New Year Resolutions to my already strained mind and body.

Then, should I give up on my goals? NO is the answer. I will still pursue my goals. But not as goals, only as dreams and visions. I am going to include one small action to be taken everyday into my schedule. Work through it. Once I am comfortable with this new schedule, add one small action into the schedule. Take time to get comfortable with it.

This way, I want to rid my life of stress and complexity. Welcome simplicity and serenity. Be more gentle and kind to myself. Thereby, being gentle and kind to my kids, my family and to the people around in my world.

Don’t panic to panic once in a while

Panic is good. It is a survival mechanism that kept the human race safe for millions of years. Panic is NOT good always. But sometimes, it is a wonderful survival mechanism which elicits the best out of us and spurs us into action. It warns us of an unfriendly environment around. Think about the last time you felt a prick in the back of your neck OR the anxiety in the pit of your stomach. Your unconscious mind was telling you something. When there is a graver situation in hand which requires urgent attention, panic kicks in(fight-or-flight mode).

Human being also experiences panic when something unusual happens. What if this unusual thing is for your good. What if the anxiety you experience is about an opportunity that can do you tremendous good. Next time you feel anxious, stop for a moment and think if it is something good/unusual that is making you feel anxious. Never again miss an opportunity.

Think about a mother who could stop a moving bus because of the panic she felt when her child was about to come under the bus. In such situations, I don’t advise you to think through before taking action though.

Improve Performance or Elicit Performance

Every individual has potential beyond what he/she realizes at the moment. Realizing this potential and turning it into performance is key in improving/enhancing the performance of an individual.

Tim Gallwey put it as

Performance = Potential – Interferences

Interferences are normally emotional interferences like fear, guilt, worry. Coaching is a powerful intervention in helping people clear the interferences and achieve maximum potential.

I would go as far to say there is nothing like Improving performance. We can only Elicit performance from the potential that is already lying dormant inside the person.

High-performance coaching conversations usually start with finding out people’s “starting points” – their visions or life ambitions. Then, it moves on to explore the directions in which people need to move to achieve those visions, and the steps they need to take now to do so.

Coaching not only impacts productivity, it also positively impacts:

  1. Confidence and motivation
  2. Behavior change
  3. Culture
  4. Leadership


  1. Improved individual performance
  2. Improved productivity
  3. Confident Self-driven individuals
  4. Develop individuals who see opportunity in all current situations
  5. Individuals learn to make the best use of the current situation.

The Power of Now – A realisation through my typhoid days

I think I am a planning freak. I am continuously planning off my everyday schedule, my schedule as it might look a few days from now, a few months from now. I may not have felt its impact when I had all the energy in the world to do it along with my other chores.

But this previous month, when I was down with Typhoid and my three dear children to care for, I realised how much energy I am spending on continuously trying to plan. It was in this moment I realized that I have my long term goals and plans in place. I dont have to do them again and again. I can just choose for this moment – NOW.

Choose to be happy playing with my children NOW.

Choose to be happy cooking for my children NOW.

Choose to be content that I am resting for my good health NOW.

I can Choose to allow my life to flow as it is NOW, instead of trying to control it, when there is no need to control.

I realise how hard it is for us to release our plans due to ill-health(this is not in my plannnn, come on, how can I accept it?). I have definitely learnt a lesson in these days to accept what is not in my control.

Even now, as I am recovering, and when fatigue engulfs me, I allow myself to drift off. I pray to get well soon, and catch-up with my plans. But, I will continue to practice to flow with life. I will continue to practice to ALLOW myself to flow with life…

Creating the first impression


What do we do when we look at a person especially someone different? We judge. We judge based on our past experiences/information. How long do we take to do it? 60 seconds. Can you believe it? Within 60 seconds of meeting a person, we pass judgements atleast internally. This is called 60 second fallacy.

Next time we see/meet someone, let us wait a few minutes concsiously before passing  judgement.

Let us look at how we can use this to our advantage to create the first impression.

What others see in us

They see our clothes, our gestures, our walk – all the aspects that form the visual quotient. We have to think through what we want others to see in us. What impression we want to leave in the first 60 seconds. And then follow it. We have to design what others see, keeping in mind the brand we want to believe and portray. Clothes matching for an occasion and confidence are two key ingredients here.

What others hear?

Again, confidence plays a major role. Confidence in what we believe in is very important. Words that show conviction and passion show the observer that we have thought deeply about our thoughts and we know what we are talking about.

What others feel?

Once we make this first impression, it is important to follow it through. If there is no consistency of thought and manners, there is no trust.

Be Yourself and be constantly aware.

Are you having a crisis in your life?

Crisis can be big or small. Right from taking your child for a swimming class to dealing with a tough boss at office.

How you ask a question to yourself is very important.

Ex1: I cannot deal with this. This is really stressful. I dont have time to finish office work, Now, I have one more thing to do.

Change it to:

How can I accommodate this along with my office work. What can wait? And what should be handled now and how much time do I have?

Ex2: Why does my boss never understand how hard I am working. Why cant he appreciate my work?

Change it to:

How can I make sure my boss understands more about what I’m doing and encourage him to give me more support?

Try it. It might just work wonders for eliminating crisis in your life…

Compulsion of Comparison

I recently planned to attend a training.

I thought about what I want to get out of this training, and decided that whatever might happen, I am going to get as much info as I can and ask all relevant questions to improve my understanding.

When the day came and I was sitting in the training. I was overcome by feeling of comparison, competition. Feelings like what would others be thinking. Am I inferior or superior to others. Am I better than them. When I wanted to ask a question, I was thinking “what would others think if I ask questions again and again”.

Fortunately, the realization that ‘I am getting into a compulsion for comparison or competition’ dawned on me. The compulsion can arise from experiences of childhood or sheerly due to human nature. I realized I can choose to not get influenced by my thoughts. And instead focus on what I wanted to get from this training. Thankfully, the fact that I planned for what I wanted before the training itself, helped me focus easily on what I wanted.

Being self-aware ‘what thoughts I am going through in any given moment’ and being clear ‘what I want from a particular situation/scenario’ helps tremendously in focusing and succeeding. And also a feeling of fulfillment comes.

What do you say? I would love to hear your such experiences.

Show that you are upto the higher job

So One Job Isn’t Enough For You?
Tara Weiss, 01.08.08, 3:00 PM ET

Sometimes you’ve got to show the higher-ups you can do the job before they give it to you.

Forward-thinking employees know that and are taking on additional responsibility to prove they should get promoted or switch departments altogether. Yes, it takes additional planning–and lots of extra hours at the office–but the effort can pay off.

“It’s like having a business plan for yourself,” says Janet G. Lenz, an assistant professor and career counselor in Florida State University’s career center.

Take Greg Topalian. He started working at Reed Exhibitions 10 years ago as a salesman, and now he’s a senior vice president at the Norwalk, Conn., trade-show operator. His steady climb up the corporate ladder is a direct result of asking himself what it takes to get to the next level.

“This wasn’t about how I could steal my boss’ job,” says Topalian. “It was more, ‘What skills does he have that I don’t?’ When I started as a salesman I realized my sales director does things I don’t, so I’d offer to help. I’d say, ‘How can I make your life easier? Can you show me?'”

Prior to getting his current job, he served as group vice president at Reed. Once he had that job under control, he analyzed what it meant to be a senior vice president. One of the job’s main aspects is thinking globally. Topalian demonstrated that mode of thinking by creating a training model for all exhibitors on how to get the most out of their trade shows.

“It made our most senior management feel that I clearly grasp the nature of the senior vice president role,” says Topalian.

And that’s what all hiring managers want. As Karen Rohce, vice president of human resources at Sun Microsystems, puts it: “Experience is the best classroom.”

To get it, employees need to set up a supportive structure. First, explain to your boss that you greatly enjoy your job, but you want to take on new responsibilities. (It helps if you scout new projects or find a mentor to give you added tasks.) Employees should assure their supervisor that their current work won’t suffer and that these new responsibilities will make them a “value-added staffer.”

Once you find a mentor or supervisor to work with, set up the parameters of the additional projects, including its length of time, along with ways to measure success. Also, get feedback from your “part-time” boss. Was he or she happy with your work and are there skill sets you need to strengthen? It also helps to have your two managers communicate. Ask your part-time boss to send your regular manager periodic updates on your work. This is a great way to remind your supervisor that you’re working two jobs.

The biggest challenge is getting burnt out by the additional hours spent at the office. Avoid that by taking on small projects until you feel comfortable with the new workload and unfamiliar skills. But the bottom line is, if you want to make it to the next level, you’ll need to work more. “There are times when you’ll be doing a 10-plus hour day to get to the next level,” says Topalian. “That’s a reality.”

You can alleviate some of the workload by encouraging your subordinates to do the same thing. “They’re able to take on your lower-end work, which is high-end to them,” says Topalian “There’s a synergy there that’s very important.”